Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Who is a mom that didnt get a mothers day gift and is sad?

so its my FIRST mothers day and i got cards from friends, relatives, which was unexpected but the one person i wanted it from was my husband, and he didnt! he got his mom flowers and a card. so at hte end of the day, i said i was kinda sad, he left came back with a card twenty min later when i was on the phone, threw it on the diaper bag and then went into the room, so i told him i didnt want it, now i cant sleep, it sucks, how do i get over this? i was so excited and then he doesnt even care, yet he gave stuff to his mom

Who is a mom that didnt get a mothers day gift and is sad?
I am sorry you had a crappy Mother's Day.





But I can tell you, SOME men need to be taught.


Since this was your first Mother's Day, he had no idea.


You should have made some hints. Like, I wonder what ( YOUR CHILD'S NAME) will get me for Mother's Day.


He should pick up on that.





Don't make him feel bad for getting his own mom a gift and card. That will only cause more heart ache on down the road.





I would tell him Thank you for the Card that he finally did get you, even though it was done rudely.


Give your child a big hug and remember some day they will be able to pick out your Mother's Day present and Card them selves.
Reply:The only validation that should matter is of your kid(s). Believe you me they'll always remember a good mother. Mother's day isn't once a year. It's every day! When you tend to your child and the late nights when they're born are what counts. The sacrifices and decisions made. When you see them smile... that's all I need. Yeah, it would be nice to see your partner acknowledge that this is a full time job. And completely priceless... no salary could compare. I didn't get anything either. Although he did wish me a good one in the morning. But my best mother's day present was when I awoke and my toddler from his bed blew me kisses. That takes the cake over any materialistic gift anyone could have gave me.
Reply:I know exactly how you feel.


I had the same experience with my ex when we were together... for father's day %26amp; my bd.


I would give her mother's day cards %26amp; stuff, %26amp; would buy cards from the 2 boys %26amp; sign their names in them. But I was never shown the same courtesy from the one person out of everyone, who should be the FIRST to do it !!!!


* Well, since I was more of a mommy %26amp; daddy to both of them since birth, %26amp; was kicked out. I can rest assurred in the knowledge that everyone will get what's coming to them soon, if not in this life... then surely in the next.
Reply:ummmm, are you his mother??
Reply::\ thats kinda a bad attitude you made him sound. Sounds like a person like me (16) would do. Just tell him to chill out and your his wife. If he expects to b ur hursband, he should show his love to you
Reply:well, technically it is the job of the children to celebrate their mother's. I understand where you are coming from though, since your child is obviously too young to celebrate the day. I say, take it upon yourself to make you feel special. I am not a mother, but I respect the strength and sacrifice mother's make in their lives to be a great parent. So, extend Mother's Day to tomorrow and go pamper yourself. Maybe, do something special or buy something that you have wanted for a long time or simply go out with friends and have fun. Mother's Day is a day with only as much significance as you give it, so make it whatever day you want and take your happiness into your own hands.





As for your husband, talk to him or even write him a letter to express your hurt feelings. Tell him that you work hard to be a great wife and mother and would like him to acknowledge that since your child is too young. Explain it calmly and make him understand why you were hurt, and then tell him that he has tomorrow to make it up to you if he wants. Good luck, and Happy Mother's Day to you.


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