Do I have to get my sister a card or something for Mothers Day?

My sister and I share custody of my son. I hate it. I'm a single mom. Long story short my family tricked me into it. At first it was to help out here and there. Then it was to help out with medical bills. My son is ADHD. He has a lot of bills for medicen and counsling. Dental. Braces. Then it was to pay for sports stuff and swim lessons. Then it was to change his school. The one by her house is better. He stays with her half the week then me the rest. Then they said I needed to sign a guardenship paper so they can claim him on their taxes since they were paying for most of his care. Well now she has taken total control. If feel if I do anything to upset her or my family, they wont let me see my son anymore. They did it once when I was dating someone they didn't like. Things are kind ok now. Do I have to reconize her on mothers day? She is not his mom or ever will be. Someone suggested a thank you card. If I don't I feel it will fuel the fires again and make her mad. HELP

Do I have to get my sister a card or something for Mothers Day?
Your family sounds a little too controlling...nonetheless, you should still let your sister and family know that you appreciate them helping you out...it doesn't necesarily have to be a mother's day card...since you are the mother
Reply:I think that you should give her a mother's day card.Even though she does not have children of her own.she is doing all motherly things for your son while he is in her custody.This way she will now that you really appreciate her.OR you can try to find a card that relates to your situation.Like a card for Godparents or something of this nature.Buy the card make her day.
Reply:Hm, unless you have went to court and your parental rights were terminated, then you still have rights. If you went to court and she was given temporary custody of your son, then she is legally his GUARDIAN, not his mother (as you said she never will be)





If she does have tempoarary custody, make sure that you comply with the court orders. This usually includes having your own stable place to live for at least 6 months, a stable job with income sufficient to meet the needs of the family for at least 6 months, you should be paying some sort of child support for your son, and you should take a parenting/nurturing class.





If there are no legal documents stating she is the guardian of your child, you should go get your boy back and move away from your domineering family. If you have to live on welfare for a bit while getting on your feet, then so be it. Don't let someone control your life like that. He is YOUR son and he belongs with you. There are agencies that will help with medicine, counseling and doctor bills.





Oh and to answer your question, she isn't his mother, therefore should NOT get a mothers day card. She should have the sense to realize that she shouldn't get one. If anything, and you HAVE to get her something, give her a simple "thank you" card and write how you appreciate the help she has given you with YOUR son.