Should I organise presents, flowers, cards, lunch etc for my wife on Mothers day, or is it the kids job?

after all, she is not my mother ( kids are 5, 10, 12). Additional info my mother is dead.

Should I organise presents, flowers, cards, lunch etc for my wife on Mothers day, or is it the kids job?
I think your children are young and might need a bit of help to celebrate Mother's Day !!! You could help them make B'fast for her in bed !!! Or go out with them and buy some flowers and take some of their pocket money off them. You may like to organise a walk, visit to a place she is fond of and enjoy the day with a packed lunch. (The weather is going to be good.) The children could help making the packed lunch.


On the other hand she IS your children's Mother I take it? The choice is yours. I know what I would prefer, a day of recognition for my 24/7 availability. . PS. Flowers for your late Mother on her patch might be a nice touch too. You could take your children with you and explain why you are doing it?Good Luck
Reply:she is the mother of your children -- she'd be thrilled to know everyone appreciates her!





happy mother's day!
Reply:mark has the best solution, couldn't have put it better myself
Reply:i think its important for both mom and dad to do something for each other on mothers and fathers day even when the children are all grown me and my sister are 31 and 29 we send a card and gifts to our mom from us and the grandkids but my dad still gets her a small gift and takes her out to dinner for still being a good mom and a great grandmother to their grandkids and she does the same at fathers day! my husband also does the same for me and tells me how luck him and the kids are to have me! so it will mean a lot if you also help the kids but maybe get her a card from you telling her how you think she does a great job and how much you love her! have a good day!
Reply:You should definitely not only give your wife a present, as she is the mother of your children. You should also make sure that the two younger ones make or give her something nice, and make sure the older one has money enough to buy or make her something nice. A good gift for your wife would be to just let that day be a day when she doesn't have to lift a finger. Take care of the kids, dinner, everything. Mother's Day is a huge day for restaurants.
Reply:It is you job to do it, and let the kids take credit - though you should try and involve them in the organisation, so that they can feel like they've organised something for Mum!
Reply:I think you should do it together,after all she needs to know that she's a great mother to the kids,and that you support her,I say go for it.
Reply:do it with the kids and get them invloved. by the way..ur such a caring husband
Reply:Well you could buy her some flowers, and do lunch, just to show her how good a Mother she is to your children.





As your Mother is no longer alive you must appreciate how much your wife means to your children.





Go on....spoil her! You know you want to!
Reply:It is yours and the kids job to do this....after all...you did get her pregnant~ (you enjoyed that I am sure)...lol...I was not meaning to be rude by saying this, but ...yes You are her hubby and I think you should organize something special for the lady who gave birth to your lovely children...but as a group thing you and the kids should all get together as a team and make/buy her cards ...flowers...breakfast in bed....make or buy something special (treat) for her that is meaningful~


Let me give you a few suggestions if I may~.....


My hubby is a great cook and my daughter like cooking , and he knows what I love to eat~....have all of u cook something special~





when you and your wife are alone at the end of thenight (when kids are in bed already) draw her a bath and have candles and give her a nice back rub with lots of hugs and kisses ...you know the rest~





beautiful flowers ...of course...in her favorite colors~





let her sleep in while u and the kiddos make a yummy breakfast~ serve her a cup of tea or coffee and along with that bring it to her with a nice hug and kiss from you and the kids along with the cards~





ps.... I am a mother and I love this kind of treatment from my kids and hubby~ she would be smiling from ear to ear and floating on a cloud all day long~
Reply:A little bit of help from dad never hurts one bit!
Reply:Do it between you. Let the kids do the most ,with you to guide them,as they will get the greatest sense of doing something nice for the mum they love.You can do the buying (with the kids help if necessary)let them write the cards with their own messages. They can help arrange the flowers and do some of the lunch preparation.Doesn't mum get a cup of tea in bed,or even breakfast on Mothers Day.
Reply:Think you should chat with the family about it but at the ages they are they should all contribute to making it a special day for their mum. You may require to go shopping with them but if they have their own money let them choose. It's lovely as a mum to get a present but think most mums will agree that it's little things like home made cards and gestures on the day that make it really special and so appreciated. Breakfast in bed, helping with chores etc. One thing I would warn is unless you know your wife perhaps just has a slice of toast because of the time factor then a lovely cooked breakfast would be nice but if she perhaps prefers just cereal or just toast keep it to her usual with perhaps a nice flower on the tray. Nothing worse that being presented with a full fry up if it's not what you want first thing in the morning............especially with all eyes on you eating it. Worse if you are like me and at Weight Watchers!!!
Reply:I don't think it's your responsibility anymore cause your kids are older, but you might want to ask if they need your help. Also I would love it if I got a present from my spouse on Mother's Day its like your saying shes a great mom.
Reply:It's always nice to know that you appreciate the job your wife is doing as a mother. If you want to contribute - I think that's wonderful and I say go for it!
Reply:My hubby never does anything for me on Mothers day.





It's Ok now because the kids are older ( i don't want much a homemade card and a cup of tea is lovely)





I used to be reduced to tears when they were little though not because I wanted anything, but because I loved my dad helping me do something special for my mum when I was little and I felt my kids missed out on that feeling
Reply:Go for it im sure she will be over the moon (the lucky devil).
Reply:I'd leave the decision up to your eldest child, the youngest has probably made a card in school and will be looking forward to giving it to Mum likewise the middle child,the eldest I guess is past the age off making cards in class, if they get spending money ask what they like Mum to recieve for Mothers day and if their spending money does'nt cover the cost help them out but don't let the secret out keep Mum if you'll excuse the pun.





I'm sorry to hear your Mother is no longer with us, (and hope you don' think this harsh cos it's not intended that way,) but I don't really think that is relevant to question
Reply:Same position mum dead kids 11 and 13.





I usually chat with the kids to remind them, find out what they are doing.


Sometimes they like to make a card or paper flowers.





I make sure I bring her breakfast in bed and compliment what the kids are doing by bringing chocolates or flowers (which are from them)
Reply:Sorry about your mum :( But if you want to make your wife feel special i think you should do something. Your kids are too young to organise these things. Hope she have a good day
Reply:you men make me want to scream,including my husband.when you say its not my mum as your kids are so young how are they supposed to organise a meal ect.do your self a favour.after all she is the mother of your children,and you can buy her a card to my wife on mothers day.go on and give her a treat,xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Reply:Kids might need help buying presents and help with the food aspect of it ie; thinking of a nice breakfast/lunch and help cooking it. Then when it's all sorted keep in the background.


PS. I bet I don't get breakfast in bed.
Reply:You should make yourself available to provide ideas, help make arrangements, book the table, drive the car and pay for everything except the cards that you help the children to make for their mummy or the little gifts they buy from the pocket money you provide for them. Other than that leave it to the kids.
Reply:Get the kids involved with some guidence from you, like you say it is their mum. :o)
Reply:Kids don't learn how to treat their parents well and do nice things for them on their birthdays and other special days unless they are helped as children.





You don't have to do everything for them, but I would speak to them about ideas and things a few days in advance...and take them shopping for cards/gifts as well.





Have fun and enjoy!
Reply:Well she is the mother of your kids and you can have the kids help you organize everything but let me tell you she would appreciate it when you and the kids do something special and she would also feel as though she is being appreciated from you and that you realize what she has done as a mother. So if i were you i would have the kids help you do everything and make her feel special after all she should be special to you and anything that is done on mothers day from you will always be special in her eyes. Good Luck
Reply:well i think you should take your kids out shopping and ask them to pick a lil something for mum. my lil boy is 3 n half an every year so far either my dad or my sister has got me some thing from him and it is lovely why not get the kids to make her special cards more thoughtful and yeah take her out for a meal after all mothers are great, my mother passed 12 years ago so i know how you feel good luck x
Reply:Hello,


I think you should let the children do a nice presentation for their mom, and it really should be a nice wreath, for your treasured memories of your dear mom. May she rest in Gods wonderful Peace, if she has no grave, then may I suggest a bouquet in your home for her .... Hope this is lovingly helpful for you.....Tony M........