I refuse to buy my wife a mothers day card. Am I wrong?

I spend hundreds of dollars per year in gifts and thoughtful stuff for her. I spend days thinking up romantic schemes and involve numerous people in surprising her with weekend getaways outings and "Because I Love you' stuff.


yet here I sit in the dog house for the umpteenth year 'cause I refuse to buy a mothers day gift. 1.) She's not my mother. 2.) I all ready buy cards, flowers and gifts for my kids to give to her.


Am I commiting that grevious a sin?

I refuse to buy my wife a mothers day card. Am I wrong?
I THINK SHE'S A LUCKY WOMAN.
Reply:How does she not qualify? Isn't she the mother of your children? You are very selfish. I think the only reason you ever give her anything is because it makes you feel good about yourself. If you really cared you'd give her something now, simply because you know it would mean a lot to her. Report Abuse

Reply:JUST BUY THE CARD AND STOP ACTING LIKE A SPOIL BRAT. THE WHOLE THING OF THE CARD IS JUST TO SHOW APPRECIATION OF HER. IF NOT YOUR A*S*S* WILL STAY IN THE DOG HOUSE.
Reply:Why can't you just buy her a card if you know that it will make her happy? It's not like she is asking you for a diamond necklace or something.


Stop being so stubborn and selfish! If she thinks she deserves to get something from you for mother's day, then get her something.
Reply:No. But it would be nice to get her a Happy Mother's Day From Your Husband card. You do love her after all. Don't be a d*ck about it.
Reply:I am a mother and I would not be upset if I did not get anything from my son or my husband. That is just the way I am though. Just knowing that my family is healthy, happy and safe is good enough for me.
Reply:No you are not sinning, but how hard would it be to buy a card simply to thank her for being the mother of your children. You can give Mother's Day cards to anyone who is a mother. Not just your own.
Reply:You're not wrong, but if it is what she wants, you sure are dumb not to get it for her.





Give in. We always do.
Reply:i don't think you have to especially if you get stuff for your kids to give her, but a card is only a dollar, so what's one more if it makes her happy.
Reply:just buy the card. no its not a grevious sin. women are difficult. if that what she want then give it to her for the sake of peace.
Reply:huh?
Reply:You are right.


She will understand


but if you really love her a lots what is a big deal in buying a card she want. If you are already doing a lot for her happiness, just buy one card more.


Good Luck
Reply:No, your smart. I refuse to buy any type of card. I'd rather tell the person how I feel rather then use someone else's made up words.
Reply:She may not be your mother, but she is the mother of your kids. Without her you would not be a father. Atleast you help your kids buy stuff. I don't think my husband even knows it will be mothers day. It is fine with me thought, it's just part of who he is. If you don't want to buy her a card, make her one. It means more when it comes from the heart anyway. Atleast thats the kind of person I am. i wish you good luck to stay out of the dog house.
Reply:you are correct she is wrong to try to force this on you.





It is a great day to be alive!!


Good Luck and God Bless!!
Reply:You cannot understand how she wants you to show your appreciation for all the things she does to take care of you and your children? Wouldn't you want to someone to say thanks you for everything you do to make our lives better? Not to mention the fact that she carried and birthed your children the least you can do is to say thank you for bringing our children into the world. All she is asking for is a card not a porshe...put your BS aside and just get the woman a card!
Reply:YES, she is the mother of YOUR children...that should count for someting in your life as well as the lives of your kids, and YOU acknowledging that directly to her on mother's day is important to HER, so it should be important to you.





If you don't buy her another material gift, make sure you find a significant way to directly communicate to her that you are glad that she is the mother of your offspring...and on top of that, be thankful to whomever or whatever you express gratitutde in your life, that you have children, and a mother for them...with that alone, you and your family are better off than so many in this world!
Reply:Dude, typing that question took more effort than buying a piece of cardboard with a bit of writing on it. you dont even have to write anythin on it, just sign it. Its just a card, its not as though you're going to have to go to any extraordinary effort. Stop complaining , come down off your high horse and you can avoid being in the "dog house".
Reply:right bud, she's not your mother. I don't buy one for my wife cause she's not my mother
Reply:Is it asking too much to spend a few more dollars to buy her a card that says I love you and you are a wonderful mother to our children? Spare her the hurt feelings and get her a card.
Reply:Yes you are..She is the MOTHER of YOUR children and that should at least be enough for a card.She does deserve alot more than a card and hopefully you will come to your senses.
Reply:umm...If it has you in the dog house then just buy a card. Buy the 99 cent card.
Reply:BUY HER A CARD EVEN IF IT THE CHEAPEST IN THE SHOP - IT WILL KEEP YOU OUT OF THE DOG HOUSE!!!! AND KEEP HER HAPPY.
Reply:Not really, but if it means that much to her, why not spend a couple of bucks on a card? I think that if you have children, this will also model to them that you appreciate her role as being the mother of your children.
Reply:APPARENTLY YOU DONT GET IT, ARE YOU MUSLIM OR SOEMTHING?....GEEEEEEEEEEEEESH!....SHE IS THE MOTHER TO YOUR KIDS AND YOU ALREADY SPEND HUNDREDS OF DOLLARS ON HER? WHATS $5.00 MORE?......OMG....DO YOU EVEN DESERVE HER?...DID SHE PEE ON THE FLOOR OR FORGET TO SHINE YOUR SHOES FOR YOU?.....MY GOSH MAN...."WAKE UP", GO TO WALMART AND GET HER THE MEASELY CARD, IT'S HER DAY AFTER ALL! IN ALL SINCERITY,.....YOU'RE BEING TERRIBLY SELFISH HERE!
Reply:NO YOUR NOT DOING ANYTHING WRONG IF YOUR DOING ALL THAT OTHER STUFF
Reply:If you spend "hundreds and hundreds of dollars" through out the year, then a $3.00 card will not hurt you any. You do things for the one you love because you want to and you are expressing how much they mean to you. You DON'T do things for people to keep a running tally of what you have done for them. You give out of love. If you can't give with love and not pettiness than don't give at all. If a $3.00 card is too much of an issue for you, don't get one. Your motives would not be genuine.
Reply:She may not be your mother but she is the mother of YOUR children,,,,, What happens for you on fathers day,,,?Without her you would not be able to celebrate that day,,,,, I think that it is also a day for hubbys to thank there wives for giving them children ,,, lets see you go through child birth.....
Reply:Have you explained your reasoning why to her? I understand your point of view and hers. I don't see it as wrong but kinda silly. I know you do a lot for her thru out the year but Mothers Day is her personal holiday and thats how she sees it (and she probably thinks she is the only wife that doesn't get anything from her husband). If you really think its inappropriate to get her anything, then don't, just don't complain when she puts you in the dog house. Or just spend a couple bucks on a card and you'll never have this fight again. Another thing to think about, does she get you something for Fathers Day? Good Luck to you!
Reply:BUY A CARD .. cause your wrong
Reply:Nope.





You're 100% correct, in what you are doing and thinking. I do and think the same way.





I hope you'll forgive me for making a rather harsh observation, your wife is extremely selfish and you have obviously spoiled her.





Maybe you need to stop.





Best of luck.
Reply:There's nothing wrong with a husband not wanting to buy his WIFE a MOTHERS day card. There is always time for a lovely little gift some other time, but since your wife is not your mother, why bother? Now if you were asking about giving your mother one, I would say there was something wrong... but we're talking about your wife here, not your mother.